I listened today as a man live on radio compared women with “vampires”, and I really felt sorry for us as a society. It is indeed true that we do have some really ‘bad’ women; but as a society, we need to appreciate the role of women in building an equitable economy and in improving the economic livelihood of our communities. No society can ever thrive while ignoring the role of women. Indeed, these selfless creatures form the backbone that has for long held our families and communities together. Yet for long, women and children have borne the wrath of the greed and brutality of men; and in most cases, they do it without complaining; like a divine task bestowed on them by our creator.
Women are simple beings, but the environment that we have exposed them to as men has played a key role in evolving them in order to survive in an extremely ruthless and unfair society. the truth is that a majority of men abdicated their roles as heads of their families long ago, leaving women to bear the burden of not just being mothers and fathers to their children; of being the bread winners to their families. Why then should we insult them when they can no longer hold the bitterness of our actions as men? the pain we cause them, the mental torture we put them through and the physical strain that we have exposed them to. What about the fear and agony of abandoning them as they age after being around them in their best days and then running away when age starts showing on their faces? When the youthful beauty we lusted for starts fading and age starts catching up? when we forget the toils we went through with them trying to establish a family and now that things are better, she has to watch you waste every coin with women and girls who don’t know the pain of wanting and lacking? the pain that it took both of you to build what you have?
Majority of kids being born today are from single mums; most of you reading this are sons and daughters of single mothers; me included, or are single mums yourselves. And unless you are a part of this, you really don’t know the pain of motherhood. A few days ago, a lady friend of mine called me and told me that she is selling her house just to send her daughter to School. I felt sorry for her; here is a woman, who has worked tirelessly to build a life for her family, yet at the hour of need, she has to sacrifice her life’s investment for the better of her child. Imagine if such a woman had a man to compliment her efforts? And it caught me on how selfless a woman can be; so loving; a love that can only be quantified to God’s love for us: unconditional, Inexplicable.
I know of women who gave up everything for their men, yet ended up in tears; of women who sacrificed their careers to take care of their families, yet years later, the best their husbands gave them in return is pain. So simple are their acts, yet so complex is their impacts. they clean for us, wash our clothes every day, iron our clothes and prepare our children dutifully every day without complaining; nurse us when we are unwell and spend every minute worrying about our welfare; can we ever be able to pay them back for all this?
True, a wounded woman is more lethal than a terrorist: as i argued earlier, a woman can kill the man she loves if he doesn’t appreciate her love back; the same way, she can kill for the man she loves if she has to do it. women in a way are the simplest beings ever; provided that they feel secure. they have a way of making complex things look simple; of finding solutions to problems that would cause men to go to war. Love changes women to some perfect creatures; full of compassion and hope. If you have to give money to a woman to keep her, or have to constantly pamper her to keep her happy, trust me there is no love there. It doesn’t mean that you should not give gifts for her, but when a woman loves, the simplest gift that reflects your appreciation for her will always give her an everlasting smile. But the best gift you can ever give her is your time.
At least, a little love could do; a little praise to show them that we appreciate them; that we acknowledge their good deeds. A thank you to our mothers, sisters, aunties and all the ladies around us would do!